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Paint my Background an Atheistic Shade of Red

I have always been a make up fanatic/junkie.  Playing with my own make up and watching countless videos on You Tube it has always been a source of fascination that I can mess around with and be happy whether I end up looking like a model or in most cases end up looking like a mess.  The path to getting there will always be worth it.

Christmas 2012 was my make up dream, my partner spoilt me very much and reminded me how lucky I am to have him in my life.  I have not been able to stop using my presents since then.  I am starting to do make up trials for my mother’s wedding on myself.  I will be doing my mother’s make up on the day and so the make up trials on her will be starting very soon now.

In the meantime, I am experimenting on myself.  I know that I will be using the Karl Lagerfeld Mon Shu Red lipstick and also using the red nail varnish again from the same Shu Uemura range designed by Lagerfeld.  My mother bought them for me for Christmas alongside the bag with Mon Shu on it that she got for free for buying two products from the range.  ***I love that bag by the way, I have been using it for the past couple of weeks now even for work!***

Through this experimenting though I got to think about masks in general.  I do not have to hide my atheism that much in comparison to other people.  There are some countries where you would go to prison and worse if found out.  But I begin to wonder if I still do hide my atheism to a certain extent.  My partner loves me but prefers if I keep my non-belief to myself.  Whether its a notion of “well as long as he knows about my non belief” or the question of is he hampering my own freedom of expression?  Both are debatable.

I do wonder what response you the reader would provide in relation to the aforementioned…..are you happy to keep your atheism in the background when your partner knows about it but prefers it kept in the background or is that not good enough and you would want to express your atheism more fully and without it being hampered?

I know that I am happy with my atheism being in the background and him knowing about it.  I feel comfortable and I know I have other outlets for my atheistic ideas such as this blog here.  Is that good enough though…..should any relationship where non belief is in the background allow atheism to move forward from this background to be more integrated within it?  I am happy with the agreed status quo within my relationship but would you be?

I would even extend this to other relationships I have….my mother knows that I am an atheist.  Whenever she talks to me about it I give her my argument against the belief in god/religion.  In the end I get a response worse than “god works in mysterious ways” crap.  Instead I get the whole I am a lost cause and that I could never be persuaded otherwise to believe about a magical invisible man in the sky!

At work, on paper they know I am an atheist, when I filled out my job application they have that questionnaire at the end (most places of employment do these days) to make sure they are abiding alongside the whole “equal opportunities” stuff.  It will state in my file that I am atheist but without looking at my file they would be none the wiser so I wonder, based on natural assumptions, would a colleague look at you and think either a) you are a believer or b) you are an atheist?  I appreciate this question would have different answers based on your own geographical location and the various cultures within those locations.  But based on where you live in the world would it be answer A or answer B?

Do you choose to freely hide your atheism in the background or the opposite….are you forced to hide your non belief for fear of any violent response whether physical or mental?  If your answer is no to both then do you express your atheism in all areas of your life or just some?

I leave my atheism in the background in my relationship with my partner but then again, I choose to be very expressive with it with my friendships, my blog, Facebook statuses and if given the opportunity at work.  I say “given the opportunity” because the question of belief in religion or god does not materialise in my line of work.  It does not matter.  But if it did, then I suppose it depends.  If I knew I would not be put at a disadvantage by being discriminated against then I would be freely expressive, but if I knew it would hamper my career….I do not know.  I would like to say that would not matter but then again, if put in that position, I think I would be a weakling and be forced stay quiet as a result.  Would that make me a bad person to not be so steadfast alongside my principles if that was what I did in that situation?

This is hypothetical but I know that whether a response if from a real situation that has come about or you manufacture a response you think would result from a hypothetical situation, it allows me to learn more about myself and how I would handle myself in those situations either real or not.  Hence all the questions in this blog based on real and not real circumstances.  And if you have got this far in reading this blog entry, then firstly well done and secondly, if you have the time I would really appreciate your input in the comments section below.  I do read them all and its brilliant to learn from other perspectives.

 
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Posted by on January 25, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Achieved My Very Own Hitchslap (diluted version) – Victory is Mine!

This afternoon I had a really interesting conversation with my partner….he believes in Christianity and god.  Picture the setting, we are chilling on our settee, both of our armchairs at either side are raised so we are slobbing out good and proper.  I am looking at the Ciate Caviar Nail Sets deciding whether or not I should buy one and he is watching “The Real Housewives of Orange County!”  I SHIT YOU NOT!!!!

Anyways, one of the wives on the show (do not know her name and do not care to) claims she is religious.  The bible is the guidebook for all to live by and that her marriage is based on the notion that the husband makes the decisions on their lives.  He even makes the decisions on what she wears on a daily basis.  Firstly, that makes me cringe.  I wear what I want when I want.  I have my own style of fashion that I follow and my partner would not dare tell me to wear something else simply because he did not want me going out wearing a particular dress or something.  He has that healthy respect for me and I reciprocate back.

Secondly – and on to my main point of this blog – he turned round to me and said that this housewife has very traditional values that she lives by based on her religion.  But he then was perplexed by her because he said that in spite of all this traditionalism, the low cut tops and the mini dresses she wears is in contradiction to her “traditional religious values.”

I told him that religious people are essentially contradictory in nature.  The bible is full of rules that contradict each other.  If you are going to follow a religion based on a contradictory book, then the product of that religion – its followers – will be contradictory as well.

I gave him the good old example of the book of Leviticus in the Old Testament.  (And yes, when I mentioned the book of Leviticus, he asked me what book that was!)  More proof that we atheists know more about their bible than the followers themselves!  On a side note – that notion scares me where followers of this religion blindly obey and submit to this god’s will, yet they do not have sufficient information or knowledge about the book that their religion is based on in the first place.  Tell me, how is that rational!?

Anyways, moving on from that mini rant, I told Richard about the verse in Leviticus where it bans the consumption of shellfish.  Leviticus 11:10 states: “But whatever is in the seas and in the rivers that does not have fins and scales among all the teeming life of the water, and among all the living creatures that are in the water, they are detestable things to you.”

From this I told him that christians are contradictory with how they choose to live their life which at times can be in spite of their beloved bible.  These housewives lead opulent lives and have an opulent diet to match.  One item of which they love to consume is lobster – a food that evokes a style of class and upper living in the first place.

He agreed with me and said that Christians pick and choose what they want to abide by from the bible.  I then told him that the bible is contradictory in nature, what it will say in one book, it would then say the opposite in another book.  For example, in Leviticus 20:13 it states amongst other notions that gay men should be put to death.  Yet in the 10 commandments it states that we should not kill and Jesus’ “Golden Rule” from the New Testament states to love one another as you would want to be given love from others.

How can these examples reconcile with what is said in Leviticus?  They cannot.  It is a contradiction.  When christians are presented with such contradictions, they then attempt the impossible by squaring off the circle.  From what I told him I then finished off with my conclusion that because the bible is contradictory and in his own words due to its followers “picking and choosing from the bible” what they want to follow as they see fit – this means that followers of Christianity are contradictory by their very nature.

My partner then started to stutter, mumbled something that I could not recognise and then carried on watching the “christian hypocrite” on tv.

I would like to announce right here, I have succeeded for the first time in my life my very own version of a “Hitchslap.”  Now what I said to my partner and how I worded it would not have been as eloquently put or as intelligently insightful compared to the great man himself, but it was a diluted Hitchslap none the less.

In the comments section below, it would be awesome to read some of your own examples of your Hitchslaps.  I do not doubt that your examples will be better than my own.  So do not be shy, what is your most recent Hitchslap?  Or better yet, what is the best Hitchslap you have dished out to an unsuspecting or deserved religious follower?

***By the way, I am not going to buy the Ciate Caviar Nail Polish sets – instead I have found a really good present for my partner to buy for me next month for Valentines Day!***

 
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Posted by on January 18, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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My Top 12 Atheist Podcasts of 2012

Good evening everyone (its 6:30 p.m. as I type),

So at the moment my YouTube subscription box is crammed full of videos where the YouTuber in question is giving me information of their top 12 make up products of 2012.  Some are top 10, top 5 so on and so forth – I am sure you get the picture!  Anyways, it gave me a capital idea of doing my own countdown of my top 12 atheist podcasts of 2012!  I will include all the necessary links so you can have a listen to the same educational goodness as me 😀

Anyways without further ado let the countdown begin:

12.  The Atheist Experience, 16th January 2012 –  Episode 744: The Failure of Prayer

11.  The Thinking Atheist, 7th March 201: More Facepalm Moments

10.  The Non Prophets, Episode 11.6: “The Free Will Episode” – Uploaded 26th July 2012 (Please note, 4 other episodes were uploaded on the same day)

9.  Penn’s Sunday School, 24th September 2012: Give me Bacon and Stay at my House

8.  The Thinking Atheist, 25th January 2012: Harry Potter is of the Devil!

7.  The Thinking Atheist, 1st February 2012: Is Evolution A Fact (with special guest AronRa)

6.  The Atheist Experience, 13th February 2012 – Episode 748: The Failure of the Second Coming

5.  The Atheist Experience, 14th May 2012 – Episode 761: The Argument from Ignorance

4.  The Atheist Experience, 9th April 2012 – Episode 756: Did Jesus Exist?

3.  Penn’s Sunday School, 17th December 2012: Crabs as Big as Dogs – Oh F**k!

2.  The Atheist Experience, 3rd December 2012 – Episode 790: Sex and God (with special guest Darrel Ray)

1.  The Thinking Atheist, 16th October 2012: The Church of Satan

***Special mention goes to The Atheist Experience, Episode 795: Argument From “Making Sense.”  I know that this was broadcast in 2013 this month but it was the most powerful episode I have ever listened to from The Atheist Experience.  As I type this, this episode is the most recent one so (if you have not had the chance to listen as yet) I highly recommend you listen to it now!***

Links for you to enjoy at your leisure 😀

http://www.thethinkingatheist.com

http://www.pennsundayschool.com

http://www.atheist-experience.com

http://www.nonprophetsradio.com

Each aforementioned podcast for me have their own style that I love:

1.  Penn’s Sunday School is a bundle of fun and comedy every single week, I always find myself laughing every episode!
2.  I love how with the Non Prophets it is a conversation amongst a group of peers.  It feels like I am a fly on the wall whilst prominent atheists well known on the web have conversations about at the moment topics flying about within the atheist community.
3.  The Atheist Experience is for me, attending a weekly class on atheism.  I fail to not learn something new each week.  The dumber the caller, the more I learn!  Matt Dillahunty is superb but Tracie Harris is an amazing supernova and she deserves a lot more credit.  What she says is articulate and well informed.
4.  The Thinking Atheist is a podcast that is for me the most accessible.  I would always direct a new atheist to listen to this podcast first like me 🙂  The presenter, Seth Andrews, comes across as very friendly (I am sure he is friendly if you know him personally as well) and his shows are always entertaining.  He regularly updates his Facebook page continuing to take the time to have a conversation with his listeners and Facebook followers.

And that is it for this evening folks.  Do you agree with my countdown, especially what I picked as my number one podcast?  The reason I picked it was because it was the most unique and “out there” atheist podcast of 2012.  I really believe that no one else would have thought to have the Church of Satan as topic.  What was equally as impressive was that Seth (The Thinking Atheist Host) was able to get the high priest of the Church of Satan to call in and contribute to the proceedings!  It was a fun and equally informative podcast.  I appreciate how Seth chooses to push the boundaries of topics to be discussed.

I realised when I compiled this list that I am very limited in what atheist based podcasts I actually subscribe to.

Do you have any suggestions for any new shows for me to listen to for 2013?

 
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Posted by on January 10, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Ordering a dose of deconversion and a “Bride-mother-zilla Update” amongst other esteemed mentionables

A few weeks back as soon as I got my wages for Christmas I ordered the new book written by Seth Andrews aka The Thinking Atheist.  I have been listening to his podcasts for over 2 years now and as a side note I miss the good ole days when I could listen live at 6:30 p.m. UK time.  Now he goes live at midnight every Wednesday when I am asleep 😦  But then its a good feeling when my iphone downloads the latest podcast in my list and I have a weekly present 😀

But anyways, back to the book – it has been shipped and on its way to me as I type signed and everything!!  I am honestly looking forward to reading this book and I have promised Seth that I will give him an honest review once have read it.  I will also put a review on my blog here as well for your viewing and reading pleasure.

It is now 13 days until my next operation as well at hospital.  I am looking forward to it because hopefully it will help with the pain management side of things but if it is anything like last time, I will be off work for a month and my back will be in a lot of pain.  My physiotherapist turned round to me and told me that it was in complete spasm which was obviously awesome news to hear.

It will be exactly a month after the operation that my mother’s wedding will happen as well, I just hope that I am well enough to get through that day.  Which by the way I have a “Bride-mother-zilla Update!”  Yesterday my mother text me telling me that I had to stop by her house on my travels home from work because she had bought me another dress that she wanted me to wear instead of the dress she bought me last weekend from Monsoon.  To be fair I really did like that dress from Monsoon.  I prefer that to the second dress she bought me but she really loves it and REALLY wants me to wear this one.  I am of the opinion of this is her day, I want it to be special for her so if she wants me to wear this second dress, I will do.  I do like the second dress, it is unusual and pretty.  I could be a diva and wear one dress during the day and the rock the other dress for the evening…..the diva within is tempted!!

It has also been two weeks since I have bought the iphone 5 as well.  I have to admit, I am a bit underwhelmed with it.  It is just like the iphone 4 in a lot of ways.  The only difference I find is the quality of the screen because as soon as I turned it on in the store I said straight away that I could tell it was HD.  I do like the new length of the screen as well.  But I use this iphone just the same as the last.  The Siri function does not feature highly in my day to day usage.  I do want to find ways to integrate this feature so I can get the maximum potential out of this iphone but honestly, I forget that it is there for me to use.  Also I hate the fact that when you integrate Facebook to the iphone, my contacts list then gets invaded by all these illegal aliens where most of them are just email contacts and I hardly speak to most of my “friends” on Facebook anyways.  It would be nice where I could integrate Facebook on my phone without the invasion on my contacts list.

And one final thing, what is it with this “hashtag” phenomenon inputting a “#” before a word or short phrase?!  I know that this is a Twitter “thing” but it has subsequently invaded my favourite celebrity and fashion magazines.  Please note editors and writers – it does not make you look hip, it does not make you sound trendy, it is annoying and does not make any sense within the English language.  Please stop abusing the hashtag in this way!

All that is left to do is to leave you with some links below to peruse in your own time but know in the background that there is an awesome mini me saying “buy buy buy!”

De-Converted by Seth Andrews
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Deconverted-Journey-Religion-Seth-Andrews/dp/1478716568/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1357246597&sr=1-1

The Thinking Atheist
http://www.thethinkingatheist.com

 

 
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Posted by on January 3, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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The Christmas Meal Battle and the Wedding Outfit Rush Around

Hey everyone

I know its been a loooong time but I really felt I did not have anything important or worth saying on here….until now.  I have the blogging bug back and it has come with a vengence!

So today, amongst other things, I firstly want to talk to you about my mother’s wedding that is coming up in February.  She does not want to do the bridesmaid thing but instead wants me to be a witness.  In addition, a registrar is officiating the ceremony in a hotel.  Definately awesome that its not going to be some long drawn out ceremony like the Roman Catholic church is hooked on but she is only getting married by a registrar as a technicality – she has been divorced before.  I think that if that did not matter to “The Church” then I certainly know that we would be dealing with a different kettle of fish!

But as luck and awesomeness would have it, a registrar and hotel it is.  She wants me to read a poem as “my contribution” to it all.  She had chosen these poems and wanted me to choose one.  I am doing one better and writing a poem myself – used to do a lot of that when I was younger, I just have to remember that it has to be simple with words she can understand and not depressing (seriously thats what she told me!)  And she also told me that it could not be all religious and stuff.  Now that was surprising hearing that from my mother and I had to remind her that this was me she was speaking to.  Judging by her reaction when I said that, I do not think she likes to be reminded that I am an atheist but I am not going to hide for no one.

In addition, originally I wanted to buy a new dress.  She saw a dress I bought from Italy earlier this year and decided she wanted me to wear that instead.  Yesterday I tried my dress on to make sure it still fits me and all of a sudden she has changed her mind.  I am now frantically looking online for a new dress.  I know the wedding is in February but I need to prepare NOW!

Other than that, Christmas in in a couple of days time.  Presents are all ready.  I do not know about you guys but I like the whole sharing and being together eating at a table part for Christmas.  For me, religion does not even enter this picture.  I am quite lucky because I have two Christmas meals on the day.  During the day I have dinner at my mother’s house, Italian Christmas meal with homemade lasagne.  Then in the evening I go over to my partner’s parents house and I have the traditional English Christmas meal that includes the big ass turkey and bread sauce.

Just a note on bread sauce:  I was introduced to this a couple of years back at his parent’s house and do not be put off with how it looks – it is yum with turkey.  I have also tried it with chicken and it is just as yum so I have an excuse to be able to have this the whole year through!

I will also be looking forward to the yearly scrap with my partner’s brother over the pigs in blankets!  If you do not know what I am talking about, those are mini sausages with bacon wrapped round them.  I won last year being able to nab the last one.  I know there is a rematch coming so I better be prepared.  Now since I am an Italian I have been trained all my life to EAT!

The most important present that I got for Christmas this year is something I bought for myself.  Very egotistical I know but this has been over 10 years in the making and very important to me.  I changed my name by deed poll.  My first name has stayed the same but I changed my last name to my mother’s maiden name.  I am not in contact with my father or his side of the family and quite frankly I never want to.  I have tried in the past but it always ends up the same, me feeling like crap and regretting it in the first place.  In addition, I do not represent or like the connotations that his last name represents and brings to me.  Therefore I took it upon myself to get it changed and done after thinking about it for over 10 years.  I got the deed poll documents through this week making it all official.  So now I am having to start getting my name changed with work, the bank etc.  I was the MOST excited getting it changed on Facebook (certainly a sign of the times there!)  I felt so proud once it was done and now I look at my name and I feel comfortable and at peace.  Now I am looking forward to getting my name changed at work – woot woot!

I hope you are glad that I am back to kick butt all over this blog once again.  For all you fellow atheist heathens out there that is reading this blog, what are you guys most looking forward to this Christmas?  Is it the same for you where religion does not enter the picture for you at all and you are able to celebrate Christmas for non religious reasons?  Or are you on the other side of the spectrum where you have to go with the flow and have to tag along to the church just to keep the peace with the family?  If so, how do you get through it?

Lots of hugs
Stefania

 

 
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Posted by on December 23, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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A Blatant Example of the Greed Inherent Within the Catholic Church

On Monday I met this little old Italian lady.  She and my mother were talking and she came on to talking about the local Italian club that is still active round here.  To my horror she said that a priest from Italy was coming over to attend this particular function at this Italian club and had instructed all members to donate money to him.  Not the church, but himself.  To make even more inappropriate and monstrous, he stated that he did not want donations in pound coins, 50p’s and what not, no, he went one better, he has demanded that all donations be in note form, so £5 notes, £10 notes so on and so forth.

The local Italian Club is made up of elderly members that do not have enough money as it is in this economic climate!  This Italian priest is literally coming over, taking their money and then going back home!  This is such a blatant act of greed through religious manipulation where not any donation from the goodness of your heart will do, no, they want MONEY!

“If you give me a pound coin, you will go to hell……If you give me a £10 note, you will be welcomed in the kingdom of god!”

Isn’t greed one of the seven acts of sin?  This church is swimming in the stuff!

 
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Posted by on February 2, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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10 + 1 Questions For You All!

I have eleven questions that I would like to share with everyone if you do not mind……….

If one of the ten commandments is not to worship any other gods, then why in his supposed wisdom did he not create hard, cold, 100% cannot argue against proof that he does exist?

If one of the ten commandments is not to make any idols, then why in his supposed wisdom did he not reveal to us what he looks like so that we know we are creating a statue of god correctly?

If one of the ten commandments is not to use the god name in vain, then why did he create the vocabulary of vain words that can be used against him?

If one of the ten commandments is to keep the sabbath holy, then why do we have more evidence and proof of the big bang theory rather than the creationism story that dictates that we rest on the seventh day?

If one of the ten commandments is to honour your father and mother, then why does it deny god’s other creations of lesbians and gays (adoption for example), why not it say “honour your two mothers/honour your two fathers?”

If one of the ten commandments is not to kill, then why in his supposed wisdom did he create killers with their reason to kill e.g. psycho illnesses?

If one of the ten commandments are to not worship any other god, then why do we not take it seriously when a person states that this god has spoken to them these days……..why consider them crazies?!

If one of the ten commandments are not to commit adultery, then why did god in his wisdom not create us with some kind of a programme to only be with one person for life….like the Emperor Penguins?! (Yes that is true, they only have one mate, look it up on Google!)

If one of the ten commandments are not to covet someone else’s belongings, then why did god in his wisdom create the emotion jealousy?

If one of the ten commandments are not to steal, then why in his supposed wisdom did he create the condition “Kleptomania!?”

And finally as a whole, with these ten commandments in his mind why did he not create us with the necessary programming so that we could follow these commandments without the “flaws” that ultimately he created us with?  Either this god has set us up to fail from the very beginning or this god was very incompetent when he was supposedly creating the human race!  Either way, it does not look or sound good!

 
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Posted by on January 12, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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