I know its been a loooong time but I really felt I did not have anything important or worth saying on here….until now. I have the blogging bug back and it has come with a vengence!
So today, amongst other things, I firstly want to talk to you about my mother’s wedding that is coming up in February. She does not want to do the bridesmaid thing but instead wants me to be a witness. In addition, a registrar is officiating the ceremony in a hotel. Definately awesome that its not going to be some long drawn out ceremony like the Roman Catholic church is hooked on but she is only getting married by a registrar as a technicality – she has been divorced before. I think that if that did not matter to “The Church” then I certainly know that we would be dealing with a different kettle of fish!
But as luck and awesomeness would have it, a registrar and hotel it is. She wants me to read a poem as “my contribution” to it all. She had chosen these poems and wanted me to choose one. I am doing one better and writing a poem myself – used to do a lot of that when I was younger, I just have to remember that it has to be simple with words she can understand and not depressing (seriously thats what she told me!) And she also told me that it could not be all religious and stuff. Now that was surprising hearing that from my mother and I had to remind her that this was me she was speaking to. Judging by her reaction when I said that, I do not think she likes to be reminded that I am an atheist but I am not going to hide for no one.
In addition, originally I wanted to buy a new dress. She saw a dress I bought from Italy earlier this year and decided she wanted me to wear that instead. Yesterday I tried my dress on to make sure it still fits me and all of a sudden she has changed her mind. I am now frantically looking online for a new dress. I know the wedding is in February but I need to prepare NOW!
Other than that, Christmas in in a couple of days time. Presents are all ready. I do not know about you guys but I like the whole sharing and being together eating at a table part for Christmas. For me, religion does not even enter this picture. I am quite lucky because I have two Christmas meals on the day. During the day I have dinner at my mother’s house, Italian Christmas meal with homemade lasagne. Then in the evening I go over to my partner’s parents house and I have the traditional English Christmas meal that includes the big ass turkey and bread sauce.
Just a note on bread sauce: I was introduced to this a couple of years back at his parent’s house and do not be put off with how it looks – it is yum with turkey. I have also tried it with chicken and it is just as yum so I have an excuse to be able to have this the whole year through!
I will also be looking forward to the yearly scrap with my partner’s brother over the pigs in blankets! If you do not know what I am talking about, those are mini sausages with bacon wrapped round them. I won last year being able to nab the last one. I know there is a rematch coming so I better be prepared. Now since I am an Italian I have been trained all my life to EAT!
The most important present that I got for Christmas this year is something I bought for myself. Very egotistical I know but this has been over 10 years in the making and very important to me. I changed my name by deed poll. My first name has stayed the same but I changed my last name to my mother’s maiden name. I am not in contact with my father or his side of the family and quite frankly I never want to. I have tried in the past but it always ends up the same, me feeling like crap and regretting it in the first place. In addition, I do not represent or like the connotations that his last name represents and brings to me. Therefore I took it upon myself to get it changed and done after thinking about it for over 10 years. I got the deed poll documents through this week making it all official. So now I am having to start getting my name changed with work, the bank etc. I was the MOST excited getting it changed on Facebook (certainly a sign of the times there!) I felt so proud once it was done and now I look at my name and I feel comfortable and at peace. Now I am looking forward to getting my name changed at work – woot woot!
I hope you are glad that I am back to kick butt all over this blog once again. For all you fellow atheist heathens out there that is reading this blog, what are you guys most looking forward to this Christmas? Is it the same for you where religion does not enter the picture for you at all and you are able to celebrate Christmas for non religious reasons? Or are you on the other side of the spectrum where you have to go with the flow and have to tag along to the church just to keep the peace with the family? If so, how do you get through it?
Lots of hugs